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Re: Lessons in the Duality of Reality

Simon Seow — Tue, 20 May 2008 01:10:35 -0000

OMG. Still having sleep disorder ah. You should relax girl. Try to do some yoga.

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Charlie — Mon, 19 May 2008 23:18:25 -0000

Nyuk, Pinkpau: You bring up a good point. You're right, no human can be expected to be happy all the time. Afterall, humans are reflective creatures, which makes us melancholic or upset even though we logically know that we actually have it pretty good. You're also correct in saying that pessimism can be a way of protecting oneself from, eg, disappointment. Fair points and well said. I hope you know I didn't mean that you were purposely trying to ridicule people, just that that is what people who have it worse than you, may be feeling. I guess what I'm trying to say is, generally speaking, although you may be unhappy now or whatever (seeing that your post seems slightly on the bitter side), I hope it's just a transient thing, you have a lot to be happy for.

As for your actual post, what can we say, c'est la vie. There will be friends who you like but also for convenience -to hang out with when you're bored, to listen to you, to help you out, etc. We all do it to some degree or another. Sometimes we will put on a smile, and be nice to someone even if we don't like them so much, because we need to finish a group project together. Sometimes, it's just nice to be nice to someone you might not actually like so much. Showing exactly how we feel about other people all the time, is neither very useful and quite detrimental to world peace and work efficiency. Backstabbing is a different story though. The friends who are true, the ones who like you and who you like just because, those are rare and precious.

Lemonade when you're expecting lemons is nice. Don't feel as if you don't deserve it though. You do. Oh God, I sound patronizing now. Or like, a Hallmark card.

They tell me you should treat the cause of your insomnia, not your insomnia (by means of pills- which are addictive). As in, if you can't sleep, maybe it's cause your worried/ depressed/ stressed/ in pain?? or maybe you just don't have good sleeping habits (using your bed for other things than sleep, napping during the day, have irregular sleep times, exercise or drink just before bed, have a room that is too hot/cold/noisy/bright, etc). Try yoga or light exercise several hours before bed to release sleep-aphilic endorphins. Now I sound like a doctor. Lol. Bet I bet you know that all already.

P.S: I'm trolling your blog cuz I'm bored and I know people who are always 'stalking' your blog so I decided to join in the fun. Please don't hold them responsible for any evil things I may happen to say.

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pinkpau — Mon, 19 May 2008 21:51:57 -0000

azhan : thank you! :) haha no lah i dont have THAT many readers! i have just enough :)

smartypants : haha thank you smartypants!

kai chi : did eric lee really say that about my speech!! yeah i made a very big mistake with my speech topic. i predicted that would happen but thought it was unlikely to come true. haih! nevermind lah :) making it to the finals was good enough for me. friendship comes cheap, but the best friendship always comes for free :)

rachel : will do :D thank you so much!

sam : what a great question; no one's ever asked me that before! how does it feel like to be me... thrilled, giggly, intense, mood-swingy, lazy, happy :)

tamtim : haih you see i ended up buying and delivering the cake to myself wtf. but i thank you muchly for the island creamery ice cream! there is now half of a cake left beside me. how ah?

jeff : aww come on :) it's nothing that great. if people can take the time to leave me comments, surely i can take the time to reply them!

voon : by being emoe!! haha

azhan : fortunately, i have been forced not to take any pills. i dont think it would be very good (or effective in the long run) for me

wannabe economist : i just read your post :) it's a great article. haha! i should learn to write like you

therealanon : haih! if i see you on msn we shall talk about it !! =(

ap : you sleep during assembly in sleeping position??? hahahahaha oh man. your entire comment just made my day. haha thank you for being such a cool person :D

iamthewitch : but the problem with sleeping pills is tht they can be addictive, right? :\ and i've been having weird sleeping patterns since i was 10 years old. that probably means my habits wont be going away anytime soon. so i guess it's best not to take any medication and try my very darn best to force myself to sleep and wake at proper hours :) martian does a very good job with forcing me.. haha.

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iamthewitch — Mon, 19 May 2008 21:33:25 -0000

I'm sorry to hear about your pessimism and insomnia. At some point, I believe everyone goes through this insomniac stage in life. And I have this friend who has the exact same symptoms like yours, who couldn't sleep unless after being awake for extremely long hours. Somehow, he also resorted to sleeping pills so I guess he had no other ways that could help. All I would say is, I hope you would get out of this insomniac life soon, whatever it takes! Even if sleeping pills help, I'm sure you'd know to discontinue immediately once your sleeping patterns are correct. :) Also, I think it's much better to have principle and friends, than to be the last one standing, but ALONE. :)

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ap — Mon, 19 May 2008 12:45:09 -0000

ai yar kena insomnia ler i almost envy u cos no matter how much i recklessly forgo sleep and wreck my sleeping patterns i can always sleep anytime i feel like wan, even before my head touches the pillow plus in shower during assembly in standing position and any kind of vehicle in motion is very sleepable but do look up homeopathic remedies there's this Coffea which eases overactive mind and is made from coffee beans im amazed

btw not to worry abt the plague of charlies(actually one) the reason why im such a pinkpau convert is your sincerity and the heart u put into your words come through so clearly (:

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TheRealAnonymous — Mon, 19 May 2008 08:51:42 -0000

...and by that, I don't mean the things you've just blogged about.
You just sound distant... like there's a war going on in ur head between the opposing pathways of an important decision you've gotta make... Not quite sure which side to support just yet.

*pats back*

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Wannabe Economist — Mon, 19 May 2008 07:00:55 -0000

Your part of the article seems to be inspiring, about the character and personality thingy, I've came up with an entry on my blog, trying my best to described whats it, btw those are just my own perception for the topic, only if you bother to read some words. =)

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azhan — Mon, 19 May 2008 01:37:48 -0000

i began re-reading again this entry and start thinking, oh its just life.

could you tell me the name of the sleeping medication you be taking? i need some too, actually. i've been having Tylenol but its from US and i don't know what to get from local market.

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Voon — Sun, 18 May 2008 20:23:48 -0000

wow.. how do you write things like this? amazing =)

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Jeff from LA — Sun, 18 May 2008 18:04:42 -0000

Su Ann, you are an all-star for still taking the time to respond to every commenter even when your posts commonly get dozens and dozens of responses. Its yet another reason why everyone loves to follow your blog.

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Artificially TamTim — Sun, 18 May 2008 13:24:41 -0000

ok read it already. sms me when you wake up or else i keel you.

btw, i suddenly find myself in the position of conveniently delivering the decedent joy of baked chocolaty goodness known only as awfully chocolate to your elevated concrete box of temporal residence tomorrow. do let me know if you'd like to exercise that zero cost (not taking calories/waist line gain into account) & zero risk (not taking food poisoning risk into account) option. oh, did i mention i'll be near island creamery too?

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Sam — Sun, 18 May 2008 13:15:45 -0000

the amount of passion you pour into your selection of words, flow of expression involved? it's so extreme that i get it that when u're happy u can be at bliss 110% as well as when u're down, misery fully takes over.

how does it feel to be you su ann?

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Rachel — Sun, 18 May 2008 12:56:54 -0000

yes dear, i use it too! but like i said, i never was an insomniac so i can't tell you if it works on insomniacs or not but whenever i use it i never dream which basically means i'm in deep sleep.

you could try to download the sample track and if you find it useful or too short you can drop me an email and i'll send you some longer tracks! ^_^

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kai chi — Sun, 18 May 2008 12:53:05 -0000

life does give lemonade when you expect lemons...haha
remember i told you that you'll get thru the semifinal..but you were reali pessimistic about that..see how?
Eric Lee said tat ur speech was excellent, but the judges may not be convinced of the relevance of ur speech to the theme...i guess..
i think that the purposes of having frens are such that u need to identify why do u wan him or her as ur fren in the first place..yes..i muz agree that friendship comes cheap but it is that the true bonding between friends that matters and which i think won't come cheap...

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smartypants — Sun, 18 May 2008 11:06:42 -0000

oh ya..you guys are a tad jealous too.. dont be...learn to rejoice.... life will be sweeter..trust me..

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smartypants — Sun, 18 May 2008 11:05:08 -0000

46. go to hell & 49. chimera

feel sorry for you guys. life has been giving bad deals huh? learn to be contented. you sure sound bitter & sour. or perhaps i am jumping into conclusions about you just like you about pinkpau?

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azhan — Sun, 18 May 2008 09:34:26 -0000

bloodygraciousness! how on earth do you get so many readers on regular daily basis?

and oh yes, a very well written article!

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pinkpau — Sun, 18 May 2008 09:22:20 -0000

zero : um, yay!

jeff : sigh you are very right. maybe that's why superstars, rich people and famous people very seldom have real friends.

ljy : thank you :D i love soft pillows. never really understood the hard Tempur pillow thing :P

sie : trust me i am very very glad too :)

foreverjas : lemonade with lots and lots of sugar!

grace : okay i guess with the feedback there is on this comments thread, you and i arent going to be taking sleeping pills anytime soon :P

sheon : what lesson? haha eh no i'm not teaching lessons.. i'm writing about the lessons that i've learned :D haih ok then u must make lemonade out of your lemons!!

ky : yalar everyone on this comments thread so anti sleeping pills wan =(

just another reader : thank you! that's so nice of you to say :)) hehe! the pink background is a ploy!!! to give everyone the impression that i am fluffy and bimbotic when i am actually not!! no lah i kid. the truth is i just like pink

wannabe economist : omg i MUST know if this personality / character thing is a real psychological theory. is it? i've always believed that people have two layers to themselves - one being character and another one that i never had a name for. but what i mean is exactly what you just described :) so is it actually a real theory?

jun : ahh the working world sounds scary then :) ya i have been disallowed by every party possible to forgo the sleeping pills. so i didnt go get any after all. le sigh!

kiasu andrew : androo u scroll up and down and read all the comments! everybahdy say dont take!

tim : no! i am pessimistic to a fault! haih i didnt get any sleeping pills :(

sharon : yes, after listening to all the testimonies from people that sleeping pills are usually only for temporary cases and not insomnia, i decided it was best i didnt get any. so i guess it's natural remedies for me! i am being fed some weird sleep-enhancement tea right now...

reallybites : hehe! i know you know what i'm talking about!

tze : get the exact date then tell me!!!!

therealanon : it's not just you :)

sam : not just nocturnalness... but i cant seem to sleep even when i'm tired :( and when i'm REALLY tired and i sleep, i wake up automatically after like .. 3 hours. which feels more like 10 minutes than 3 hours. haih

june : true friends are the best things we can have. i think that knowledge is the biggest wisdom i possess after my puny 20 years of life :P

kei : ewwww why you stay up to do add mathsss :( i hate add maths :( and yes it caused me much sleeplessness during SPM days too, haih.

michelle c : hehe milk doesnt help me sleep wan! but okay this Satie sounds good :D i'll go download!

nyrac : i am wayyyy too hyper for meditation! one of the reason swhy i cant sleep is because i'm thinking and working things out in my head when i'm in bed. so i'm pretty sure meditation wont work for me :P ya martian is giving me this sleep enhancement tea thing! haih. and he's also forcing me to sleep proper hours whether i like it or not. haih. let's see how that works..

charlie : omg why puzzle bobble hahaha! eh old disney movies cannot lah... i'll get too excited belting out all the songs (i know all the lyrics by heart, and i'm sure you do too :P dont try to deny it!!) yes if anything your comment was what made me think twice about the sleeping pills. you are the future sleep doctor after all :P okay okay i will download this Satie!

call : i tried! still cannot!

chm : classifieds only make me feel like taking up classes or buying dogs.. :P

michelle : WOW haha thank you so much! okay my stupid Ares isnt working. when it does, i will go download all these songs :D

chris tock : tock tock! cheesy wedges!

nyuk : thank you so much :))

songjun : okay you know about #1, #2, #4 and obviously you must know about #5. so i will update you on #3 soon.. haha

novell : i was going to say true friends are hard to come by, but then i thought about it and i realized they arent :) i guess the only thing i have to say is that we shouldnt expect too much out of other people, nor should we go into every new friendship expecting the worse and being all cynical. life is good when we become content with simple things :) all the best, novell

iamdoryfish : milk totally doesnt help (i dont like milk that much!) and i'm too lazy for exercise. heehee. martian gave me this tea thingy.. so we'll see how that works!

miss p : okok :( i very scared oredi cos everyone's warning me about the sleeping pills :( milk doesnt do anything for me, but this sounds like a very good excuse for banana peanut butter sandwiches :D

jim : cannot! so many commenters say it's bad!

michellesy : i seriously have NO idea what's causing it. i just know that i've got a lot of things on my mind, and i keep working these things out as i lie in bed, so in the end i spend some 2-3 hours thinking, and then i'm not sleepy anymore. and i've got loads of things to do and meet up with people in the day time, so that means i have to head out rightaway. and i'm so used to NOT sleeping at night, that my body is just very very awake at night no matter how tired i am. it is so damn WEIRD O__O i'm actually not stressed at all right now!

truffie : not all friends :) i think it's a very small percentage of people, and i usually do everything i can to avoid them. you know the kind i mean.. the ones who only talk to us when they want something.. etc. sigh.

jane lock : agreed about the leeches always being there, but we dont always have to like them :P all they do is take and never give. running in the afternoon sounds very... impossible O_O i have just exposed my horrible and incurable laziness, haih

francis foo : hahahaha your comment made me LOL ! thank u :D

liz : that is EXACTLY my problem! or part of it. the thinking thing :D sigh! we are two peas in a pod

hk : ya but im a damn lousy drinker :(

the clock tower : i know who you are! big ben! which part are you amening to

smartypants : ya but these days it's like my body doesnt even want to sleep. how ah :(

charlie : i agree with you that i shouldnt be a pessimist, because it's quite a silly thing to be. but i disagree with you when you say that i dont know how lucky i am. because i really do :) if you've been following my blog long enough, you'll find that ever so often there are posts dedicated to just how grateful i am for having the love and care that i have now. obviously it is not my intention to ridicule (as you put it) people who have lemons; after all, who could be so purposely cruel. what you're saying is a lesser degree of saying that people dont deserve to be sad simply because there are sadder people in this world. anyway i guess there really is no excuse for being a pessimist. i think a lot of the time i'm just scared of being optimistic and expecting good things.. because as we all know, there are always bad outcomes that can and will hapen. and i'm just scared that i'm not prepared for these things when they happen. hence the pessimism. it makes for a very good shield :)

nyuk : thank you so much nyuk :) thank you for not expecting me to be happy 24/7 even though i have a lot of things to be happy about. because there are sad things in my life too. which of course, doesnt see the light of day in my blog, because they are oftentimes these things are a lot more private than the sad things.

rachel : haha WOW this pzizz thing looks great! thank you for sharing this with me!! do you use it too?

charlie : thank you my dear :))) haih i really dont get why people read blogs and think that they know everything about the blogger. just because some things are not blogged about, doesnt mean that people should assume that they dont exist. *rant

go to hell : ??? but i dont have a sucky life?

nyrac & sheon : haih! nvm lah :)

chimera : unlike charlie whom i think approached the idea correctly, i think you totally misunderstood what i was blogging about. let me try to make this as clear as possible while being discreet because i am not at liberty to expose what i was talking about. when i talked about my lemon and lemonade thing.. it's something that's like (but not really) joining a competition, and being pessimistic about winning because i dont think i stand a good chance among the other people who are more talented and more experienced than i am. but then it turns out by some stroke of luck i actually won. yeah. that's what i'm talking about. so do you really think that i dont have a right to be pessimistic, or that because there are lots of people out there who are worse off than me (and again, horribly ignorant of you to think that i dont realize how lucky and loved i am), i have no right to be sad or scared about anything at all? i dont know whats up with you people.. coming in here and thinking you know everything about my life and what i go through :) and also, nope, you dont know the mediocrity story, and believe me when i say you calling me 'holier than thou' is a big laugh when put in the context of what really happened :)

k0k : hahahaha i totally agree with your pessimism conclusion :P that is the driving force behind why i'm so pessimistic all the time, because i LOVE the pleasant surprises, and i'm prepared for the worst anyway even if it does happen. yalar i mean i'm sure it's okay for us to pretend that we are great, but my point is that we shouldnt step all over other people to 'prove' that point

grace : haih there will always be random people like that!

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grace — Sun, 18 May 2008 08:34:55 -0000

WTH ''go to hell'' how can u say ppl like this!
no one is suppose 2 commit suicide you must be out of your mind

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k0k — Sun, 18 May 2008 08:32:06 -0000

You know, I can say exactly what "go to hell" said and mean it affectionately xD.

Uh, I fell into a sleep pattern once when I only sleep every two days. Happened during the hols when I was trying to cramp as much fun as possible into the month.

ANd here's to pessimism - we are either right, or are pleasantly surprised, always.

Huge egos is essential for us little people. Great people are awesome, so they already feel good about themselves. The rest of us have to pretend we are great to feel good, unfortch.

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chimera — Sun, 18 May 2008 07:07:48 -0000

I have to second what Charlie said. You have fans worshipping your every move, you have the funds to pursue a US education, besides being able to take trips to places (alone, sometimes, God knows how most teens are disallowed to go on a trip alone by their parents), you have so many things other people could only dream for. I won't stoop to 'go to hell''s level and tell another human being to commit suicide, but I'd like to put another bar of strength behind Charlie's voice, that is not to keep thinking about lemons when others' lemons are so much sourer than yours.

And the part about mediocrity knows nothing higher than itself is distasteful. Who is acting holier than thou now?

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sheon — Sun, 18 May 2008 05:33:12 -0000

"go to hell": excuse me?.....

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nyrac — Sun, 18 May 2008 04:20:03 -0000

"go to hell", you sure live up to your name.

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go to hell — Sun, 18 May 2008 02:54:57 -0000

it's obvious you have a sucky life, do the world a favour and commit suicide so the world one less loser like you.

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Charlie — Sat, 17 May 2008 23:40:21 -0000

Hey, other-Charlie! : P

If the intentions behind your comment are noble, that's awesome. But I think your dear-emo-please-wake-up call was wasted on someone who's already fully conscious.

PS. It's abit presumptuous to say she's got 'everything anyone could possibly want', since you know close to nothing about the full extent of her personal problems.