DISQUS

quaintly: Love and Affinity

  • Cherie · 1 year ago
    It makes me shiver, the effect and cause of love transforming two individuals into one single entity that's so... wholesome and strong and scary, but it's also beautiful. :) I wonder what we'd do without Love sometimes.
  • yizhen · 1 year ago
    ahhh love. its a great thing to have. its also a luxury that some of us can't afford. but its definitely something everyone yearns for. :) i'm not sure if your post increased my hope in finding the one true love, but i sure enjoyed it. :))))
  • clem · 1 year ago
    i can't help but wonder (serious question ok!): so the hermaphrodites who are cut in half would be considered heterosexuals, while the entirely male/female humans who are cut in half would be homosexuals, when they find their other halves?
  • nyrac · 1 year ago
    i was thinking that too!
  • May · 1 year ago
    Putting 1 and 1 together seems difficultly possible taking into account of the number of people in this world and the possibilities of meeting 'The One'. In my opinion, there's a very high uncertainty as to whether the love one is having now is his or her true love, the perfect Key for its Lock. The love that most of us are sharing now is only mutual affection which co-exist with acceptance, contentment, compromise and minimal desire for affection from someone else, of which it merely represent true love.
  • MIchelle · 1 year ago
    Each time I think, it makes me sadder. I choose not to think then. But I can't live without thinking.

    And there's this whole talk about desire. Do humans desire that much? Because love is not desire. Desire is more like lust...
  • Jules · 1 year ago
    Affinity may not be love. And love may not be affinity. If you have an affinity towards someone you love...thats great. And sometimes you may not love those you have an affinity towards. Having chemistry may not mean you fall in love with the other...and I suppose when you only think with the chemical primal part of your brain you fail to see other fairly obvious things. But couples who *do* click on some chemical level just don't know why they're attracted to one another. At least thats what I think anyway. It could be for more than just chemical reasons, but the initial attraction could be just completely unexplainable.

    Which leads me to the whole "what do you love about me" and "why do you love me questions". Honestly....its the same question. Except maybe dumbing it down a little and leading the question in an explicit manner. LoL!
  • f.a. · 1 year ago
    i'm liking u - post by post! hee! keep it up~
  • isa. · 1 year ago
    i love this.
    its beautiful.
    yes, it strikes a chord in me.

    love is...complicated.
    but if it was simple, hell, it wouldnt be worth it.

    i like the idea of watching over two people entwined in sheets
    hearts beating together,arms crossed upon each other..
    and wondering: is this what they really want?
    how many people out there, in new york, california, or malaysia
    are entwined in bed with people they just find to fill the empty space of the now
    not the right person theyre supposed to be with.

    love, is like walking in the rain.
    sometimes you run for cover.
    sometimes your tucked away somewhere nice and warm
    sometimes you dont even know its raining.
    but sometimes, just sometimes..
    when the mood, situation and yes, company is just right.
    you walk out in the rain, and get completely drenched from head to toe.

    ever done that pinkpau?
  • Fatcat · 1 year ago
    I had to read Tuesdays with Morrie for homework. I quote Morrie, "Love each other or perish." Similar to tt speech you quoted? :D

    It's a little strange tt everything seems to run on love yet love is so intangible.
  • chilliking · 1 year ago
    haha there's actually a song on it you know! Its called Origin Of Love by Hedwig And The Angry Inch
  • kiasu andrew · 1 year ago
    ya the song is the bomb pinkpau must listen
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  • povege · 1 year ago
    Thank you pinkpau for sharing. I love the story. You made me feel more secure about my LDR. Stay happy.
  • Ai · 1 year ago
    <3
  • Shinyi · 1 year ago
    this reminds me of a great film i've watched on youtube. apparently it was the first feature length film shown on youtube. the filmmakers were novice, filming with their own gadgets, equipment and money. their story was about how they fell in love and its called Four Eyed Monster - which is why your post reminded me of it (four legs, four arms, two lips etc). As a film student I really admired how they pull it off and achieved so much publicity, but most espcially how they just wanted to tell their love story to the world. The film is quirky, fun and very unique. You can give it a go at:

    http://foureyedmonsters.com/feature_film/

    By doing this film, the couple went into so much debt they had to ask people to donate on their website. Poor things. This really is the epitome of the 'starving artist', which i always wanted to be. hahaha
  • Gin · 1 year ago
    *o* oh i read that before!!! hahah.a. i totally forgot about it wei. i used to piss off my homophobic friends with that cuz of the female and male counterpart part.. wtf
  • Alynna · 1 year ago
    As a psychology student, I read a study about how participants who couldn't verbalise what they loved about their partners stayed together for longer than those who tried to put it into words.

    Strange, huh?

    But this whole idea of The One... it's hard to accept. Couldn't there be TWO but we've only found One of the Two? What happens if The One slips past? I could ask much more. So many questions, and only one lifetime in which we hope to find all the answers.

    Thanks for sharing Aristophanes' words. They are beautiful. =)
  • dr.lychee · 1 year ago
    my boyfriend used to get soooo annoyed when he asked me : why do you love me?..my answer was and still is : because la.
    now I can show him this post and say, see? my answer doesn't suck:P
  • Yau · 1 year ago
    thank you su ann now i feel like a better person.
  • hui wen · 1 year ago
    Wow, this is beautiful! And you made me think on a Sunday morning, haha.

    Love the words by isa. as well. Now I will go find my boyfriend to hug, whee!
  • Mei · 1 year ago
    it was very beautifully written by ......

    so nice that u actually get to read these stuffs! =)
  • kim · 1 year ago
    Hi Su Ann,

    Your post made me think of the correspondence between John Adams and his wife, Abigail.

    Humanity obliges us to be affected with the distresses and Miserys of our fellow creatures. Friendship is a band yet stronger, which causes us to [feel] with greater tenderness the afflictions of our Friends.
    And there is a tye more binding than Humanity, and stronger than Friendship, which makes us anxious for the happiness and welfare of those to whom it binds us. It makes their [Misfortunes], Sorrows and afflictions, our own. Unite these, and there is a threefold cord -- by this cord I am not ashamed to own myself bound, nor do I [believe] that you are wholly free from it.
    - Letter from Abigail Smith to John Adams, 11 August 1763

    I have yet to encounter a more skillful and beautiful way for a woman to tell a man that she loves him, and that she knows he loves her too :)

    Just something I thought I'd share because you might appreciate it as much as I did!
  • yingxian · 1 year ago
    This was mentioned in the book 11 minutes by Paolo Coelho. :)
  • lishun · 1 year ago
    that's a great myth to explain love. =) i would be more impressed if i actually believe in romantic notions of affinity and "the one". unfortunately i've grown *cough* old and cynical and have lost the ability to appreciate all that. sigh.
  • Grouchy Smurf · 1 year ago
    love is overrated. sex is misinterpreted.
  • De · 1 year ago
    beautiful interpretation of sex 0.0 how sad it is for a person to walk through life without finding their other half, to be forever searching till the day they die..
  • Anon. · 1 year ago
    Mmm... I think it's alright to ask why/what someone loves about you. I personally, cannot accept something I do not comprehend. I don't believe one can love another 'just because'. That's just... infatuation or passion/ in-the-moment-thing. To fully appreciate another person, you must know why you appreciate them, what makes them different, special, from everyone else. This way, you can also realize what are his/her weaknesses and strengths. Love is not blind, but it can turn a blind eye because it thinks that the pros are worth the cons. Only then, will you know why you really want to be with and remain with XYZ for the long haul.

    Ah, there's a new requirement to post with email address now? Lol.
  • Lalamui · 1 year ago
    Eh how come you and KY (www.kyspeaks.com) are advertising the same product one ah? how much are you guys getting paid for this? LOL
  • kojack united kids of Oi! · 1 year ago
    nice body girl!!!