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Re: Loyalty and Lions

jihan — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 23:09:14 -0000

i like ur blog.its nice n always have a beatiful picture. n i like ur style.u look relly nice and cute.n im sure u r a nice person though i dont know u.keep up the good works!

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aud — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 23:17:15 -0000

justice to the world yo wtf

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abby — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 09:52:26 -0000

i love you.

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TheRealAnonymous — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 06:59:04 -0000

WAHLAU... everyone got damn long replies yo! =p
I won't say much... but I'll comment on your last scenario...

You didn't do anything wrong in believing him. He was wrong to lie. You didn't do anything wrong to trust him. He was wrong to use it to his advantage.

On the other hand... if u are one of those who swore to be by their friends at times they need you most... do you not think that this is that time? Is this not the time where your friend is at most in need of being saved? It might not seem so now, but if you do manage to change him, one day he'll look back into his past and be damn right grateful for wat you have did. =p To have still stood by him when everyone else thinks all hope is lost. =p

I'm not suggesting you carry on being taken advantage of lah... You might hold back a lil', yes, but dun la sampai neglect all. I got a perfectly gooood example story exactly like this situation... will cerita to you when we go out lerz. =p

In the mean time... carefully consider your actions lar. I personally never neglect any of my friends... nobody wants to be lonely. =)

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alea — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 04:58:16 -0000

VERY blair-nate-serena situation. but thank god i wasn't that close to her before or else it'll break my heart to pieces even more. That's why im always in Team Blair wtf

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pinkshirtz — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 04:22:06 -0000

haha ... i have a friend, whos girlfriend is quite a insect. Biting and gnawing away. But we still have to put up with her character ... in fear of her boycotting our friend and ... its tough when your friend likes a very unlikable girl. Sighz!

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keropok — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 22:33:33 -0000

i think u shouldnt boycott him. all u hav to do is wait, pray and hope ur best friend made a right choice, hope that he wouldnt be hurt by this vicious girl everyone hates.
this is what friends mean aint it. never ask for more, because he is still the same deep down when you guys are together.

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alice — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:55:47 -0000

i hope he does realize it, too. helplessness isn't fun. i have a friend that's similar in that way. different situations, but the overall idea is still the same - the friends are punished by their choices as a result. as for us, we are still waiting for her to come around. we haven't abandoned her, but we aren't holding our breath. our life goes on with or without her and when she comes around, she's welcome - anytime.

love can be so silly sometimes.

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Sparky — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 14:23:24 -0000

if you're really loyal to your friends and love them that much, the love should also transcend to showing that they're wrong. Do the boycott, but do let him know its a consequence of his action; then he might change for the better.
As for Aaron, leave him be. Sometimes pple need to discover things for themselves, esp if this girl is as horrid as you make her out to be. Common sense will prevail.

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pinkpau — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 13:50:24 -0000

alea : wow that best friend boyfriend thing really sucks. that is so blair-serena-nate! O_O poor you :( i'm sorry that had to happen.

michelle : haha that ass out of you and me thing cracks me up all the time!

ben : dowan lah ben. i'm so sick of all these petty little things.

k0k : you've misinterpreted the situation :) we never asked him not to be friends with her. anyway ya i think that knight in shining armour thing is what is at play, but you cant blame me for having no respect for that sort of machination. neutrality is something one should only employ after thinking long and hard about both sides of the story, instead of employing it because one is lazy or just afraid of responsibility.

lalita : yes! please lah right!! -_____-

doink : such wise words. i should so stop giving air time to insignificant people -___- sigh stress me out for nothing only.

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doink — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:46:24 -0000

hello,

i came and saw. =)

to me, loyalty is non-existence if its one way. sometimes, you just have to accept the true colors of humanity and move on. you can't dwell too much on insignificant individuals, if you do, it will just suck the life outha you !

btw, nice meeting you. ;)

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Lalita — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 09:40:38 -0000

I think we all do the loyalty thing to some extent, no? Wrt to the people who are our friends, we dislike the same people etc. As for your edit, I am sitting here geleng-geleng my kepala. Somehow, some people will turn anything out there into "Me, me, me". Aiyoh, pleaselah right!!!

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k0k — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 04:07:30 -0000

wait, how come I feel like I'm trying to champion the poor, misunderstood Belinda too o.o?

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k0k — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 04:04:06 -0000

actually, i’ve just found out that belinda is telling aaron not to be friends with all of us :) who’s the petty one in this situation?

Wait, that sounds really familiar!

Isn't that's what you guys did too? Asking Aaron not to be friends with her?

If she's truly so vile, you should let Aaron find out for himself. Having all of you emptying rounds into her is just going to make Aaron feel more like she's championing a poor, misunderstood damsel (and we all know how guys like feeling like a knight in shining WTF armour). And if he's already smitten with her, it would HAVE to run its full course.

Anyhow, I apologize in case I am having any erroneous impressions here but it's plenty hard to comment with the limited amount of info you give. At any rate, I AM truly neutral :)

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ben — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 03:50:51 -0000

"so, do not hijack this and turn it into one of those chapters in the elaborate movie of your life. in a nutshell, please dont be so damn perasan."

hahahhahaha pinkpau i love you. please teach that annoying little whinger a lesson. for the good of all mankind.

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Michelle — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 01:42:01 -0000

Did I?

ZOMG. ==

All of this must be hard for you. Even harder when someone begins to make assumptions. Well, we shouldn't assume too much. Makes an ass out of you and me.

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alea — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 01:26:35 -0000

btw, tze ching is like me lor. im not anti fur at all. If im wealthy, i wanna be like Liz Taylor with all the furs and diamonds. wtf jk please dont kill me ah su ann.
wtf am babbling.

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alea — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 01:25:01 -0000

blergh. that's what friends are for right? loyalty.. it's a good thing but then you'll get stabbed on the back or betrayed once you've been too good to them. now im only loyal to few people. your situation with the aaron belinda thing was abit like mine though, but mine is relationship wise. My then boyfriend whom is my ex now, fell for the person that i loathe the most which was his bestfriend. I accepted her and let him being friends with her since i wanna make him happy, but then he left my loyalty ass for that monster. I also dunno whether being loyal is a good thing at times, but oh well.
i guess next time just listen to our instincts when we doubt abt loyalty.

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pinkpau — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:33:22 -0000

sheon : never belinda chee!!! i think she's awesome :) this friend's lies are not damn big or earth-shaking, but still hurtful nevertheless. he's very cute wan lah.. i dont think he realizes that his actions affect us as much as they do. as for aaron, he does not have feelings for belinda, and we know that for a fact :P i guess a big part of it is that he's just trying to negate all the negative treatment she gets from people. so he goes a little bit over the top with the good treatment.

tom : hehehehe

gin : unavoidable, my dear :P haha no lah it's not happening.

sheon : i know i know i know i want to watch it too!!!!!

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sheon — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 00:23:11 -0000

GO WATCH "CLOVERFIELD" !!!! ITS FREAKING AWESOME!!!!!

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Gin — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 23:03:09 -0000

some things are inavoidable. @_@ is that even a word @_@ inavoidable @_@ hm

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tom — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 22:33:22 -0000

no way.. !!
but well.. shaz bigger size than me.. i shall withdraw my claim hahaha -_-

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sheon — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 19:37:41 -0000

loyalty to a close friend is a virtue.....but its a mutual thingy. when that friend starts lying and being deceitful, thats a monumental breach of trust now, isnt it? strike three...and he/she's out! i do not welcome anyone i dont/cant trust inside my mind and heart.

maybe aaron has feelings for belinda......that explains a lot! :) a guy would do the stupidest and silliest things on earth...just to impress the girl that he likes......its one of the silly things guys do... i'd done silly things for girls.....BUT NEVER BREACHING OF TRUST!

ps: i hope the belinda is NOT belinda chee.........coz belinda chee is sooo freaking hot!!!

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pinkpau — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 18:05:21 -0000

michelle : yes i saw your post :( so angry :(

rosa close : that's fantastic work you have there :) kudos!

michael : haha no lah i thought the stickers were damn funny. it's so like a guy's kinda decoration :P

ky : KY dont be mean! i didnt say your hit-and-run incident was boring!

entwined : the cheating thing!!! i so know what you mean. my girlfriends have done that too, and like you i always accept it and then start reassuring them. double standards indeed.. but that's what friends are for :P yeah i agree with you about having to let A learn from his own mistake with B. sigh. okay now i just have to teach myself to be patient until that actually happens. about the friend-who-takes-advantage, the slow death thing sounds scary :( i cant give up this friend.. we are really really close.

tom : the tallest guy's name is shaz and you are not shaz :P

ponderer : thank you :) you have reminded me of what is important.

dolphyn : i am happy that you had a happy ending :D your friend sounds very emo btw haha.

sieutheng : chung tau emoticon *EYES*!

alice : i love your comment - it was very eye-opening. the aaron belinda situation is slightly more complicated than it sounds; technically we cant watch our stuff and cannot do anything if aaron wants to take it from us to give to her. right now, she's already victimizing us through him, and that's what makes us all angry. i'm not even asking that he hate someone i hate (which i learnt is what she just told him to do, which annoys the hell out of me), but i just want him to stop feeding her greed and self-centeredness. what he does for her - instead of for us - isnt very fair despite his claims of neutrality. and it makes us feel so hurt and wretched when someone as terrible as her can take precedence in his life over us. le sigh. you're right, not much can be done until he sees what he's doing wrong. i just hope that time comes soon -__-

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alice — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 15:43:31 -0000

so many sides to the story. i understand your questions. i ask them of myself a lot, but i'm not as loyal as you are. you have a lot of comments already, so i'll try to be quick about it.

1) aaron - you should listen to your friends when they need an ear. but don't let it sway your judgement. be open and let yourself make a judgement about chuck if the time ever comes. my friends and i do not dump each other simply because another doesn't hate someone we hate. we respect each other's right to choose a friend. it should not be anyone else's call and quite unfair to believe "if you are a friend of ___, you are no friend of mine." ultimatums never work the way we think they should. it develops even more conflict.

overall, your loyalty, even if slightly blind, is fine. it's acceptable. not all your friends will have your values. it's okay to love them even if some values go against yours.

2) Belinda - it may not be fair for him to put her above everyone else's loyalty. if everyone were to leave him, her loyalty wouldn't do him much good because if it's true that she gives less than she takes, then she will disappear eventually, too - when he has nothing else to give. But if you want to keep aaron as a friend, you can only stand by and let him put you all aside, and see where it goes. just watch your stuff carefully. she's victimizing him and he's allowing her to. it doesn't mean you should allow her to victimize you through him. watch your stuff. don't let him take anymore. as a friend, you want to steer them in the right direction, but there's not much you can do if they do not feel the need or want your help. you can only hope they realize the error of their ways and stand by their side until you can't take it anymore.

3) the friend that takes advantage - you can also apply the same thing to this friend as to aaron. what i would do, though, is take a step back from the friendship. not cut them off completely, but lay off the friendship for a bit and cool it down. it might help you see things in a better perspective and spend a little less time with them. if you mattered to this person enough, they will notice the difference in your attitude towards them and maybe talk about it with you. if not, it's also a good time to assess whether or not you need to be friends with someone who doesn't notice you're lack of presence in their life. as far as the boycott, it may or may not work. most likely the boycott may just make him hostile towards everyone else. there's no sense in creating conflict. possibly the best thing is just to move on from friendships that hurt.

so much for making that short. either way, your friends are all grown up and you can't parent each other. these people will grow their own way regardless. i wish you luck.